Why Do Children Avoid Doing Things? What Could Be Behind It
By Gunja Maurya (Therapist)
Many parents complain that their child does not do things on their own. Whether it is studying or doing a small task at home, the child often tries to avoid it. Even after being told several times, they may not start the work and sometimes make excuses.
But does this always mean that the child is lazy?
Not really.
Sometimes children avoid a task because they find it difficult. They may feel that they will not be able to do it properly. Instead of trying and making a mistake, they feel it is easier to avoid the task.
Some children also get used to others doing things for them. When parents take care of every small task, children may slowly lose the habit of doing things on their own.
Sometimes the reason is much simpler. The child may be more interested in something else. They may want to play a game or watch TV. At that moment, studying or doing a responsibility may feel boring to them. So they keep putting it off.
Fear can also be a reason. If a child made a mistake in the past and was scolded for it, they may try to avoid the same task next time. They may think that if they make another mistake, they will be scolded again.
This is why it is important not to simply call a child lazy when they keep avoiding a task. It is better to understand what is stopping them.
Giving children small responsibilities can help. They can start with simple things like putting their things in the right place, arranging their books or keeping their room a little organised. When they do something on their own, appreciating their effort can also encourage them.
Responsibility does not develop in children overnight. It takes time and practice. Instead of scolding them for every little thing, giving them a chance to try can make a big difference.
Sometimes a child just needs to feel that “I can do this on my own.”
